We held the 3 year service for my Mom the other day. (Actually it has only been 2 years since she passed away, but the way the Japanese count things makes it all a bit confusing...)
It was a nice service and afterwards we all got together for lunch at the house.
The humidity was really gross and made things pretty uncomfortable.
Still, I'm glad we were all able to gather together and it was nice seeing everyone.
There is still quite a big void without her around, perhaps that will never change.
Missing you mom.